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Cake day: June 26th, 2023

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  • This feels like a great time to recommend a song by a parody-hate band, S.O.D.: Kill Yourself.

    Please understand that this band was formed by Scott Ian, of Anthrax, in the 80s. This was a time when you could mock hateful racists and people understood that it was a joke. I wouldn’t support a band saying that now, because I’d consider the excuse that it was a joke to be a front for their actual beliefs, as we’ve seen with people who are “just asking questions.”

    Anthrax and Public Enemy teamed up on Bring Tha Noise because Anthrax liked rap. Aerosmith teamed up with Run DMC because their manager / producer / someone convinced them to. Anthrax was genuinely not about hate.

    Bonus trivia: Scott Ian now plays with Mr Bungle. Just as S.O.D’s titular song was called Speak English or Die, Mr Bungle now plays a song called Habla Español O Muere (Speak Spanish or Die). If you can’t judge that the former was a parody by the evolution of the theme, I don’t know what to tell you.

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  • If my partner could check my location at any time, how would I keep bday and anniversary gifts secret? The places where I go to buy things for her are not places I would normally go. She only has to randomly check one time when I’m at an unusual location for her to ask why and then I have to lie. Not worth it.

    We use temporary sharing (can limit to one hour) when meeting somewhere. Beyond that, it’s a potential liability.

    Example: she once got upset that I wanted to go to the mail room (apt building) alone and didn’t want her to go with me. She wanted to know what I was hiding. Turned out to be her bday gift and it was just in the commercial packaging with a shipping label. I let her go get it and she’s never been suspicious of my motives since (this was at the very start of our relationship and we hadn’t established the level of trust that we have now).

    Anyway, again, the one-hour sharing is all we need.