As weird as the title sounds, my family really dislikes me using Tuta and not Gmail. Is your family also like this?
“Come on, Sarah, can’t you just be normal and use Gmail like everyone?”
- my mom, scolding me.
My family is not against it, they just don’t understand
Nah. Got my whole family on Signal. No issues so far
My mom read the whole tutanota website and still won’t switch
No, they respect my goals and seem to have accepted that I’m sometimes just unreachable. The only thing they might be annoyed about is my GrapheneOS and Signal proselytism. If anything, it’s more apathy than antagonism. They’ll agree with me on privacy issues but rarely ever give up the conveniences of Apple, Microsoft, Google, etc. in practice.
Ask her if all her friends jumped down a cliff would she also jump down a cliff?
Tell her; “no mom, if some 30 year old man was tracking me, reading my mail, texts and tracked my location you’d be getting ready to murder him. Why should I let gmail get away with the same shit?”
When Google bans their account ask them, is having no email normal?
???
My Family?
Fuck, I am against my privacy means. Shit gets too much for me sometimes. I also want to be an ignorant idiot and just trail naked online while doing fuck nothing to keep my shit private.
Bbbuuttttt…that’s not what we do.
We put in the extra effort, we go that extra mile to keep ourselves hidden and cover our tracks. So that those pesky piglets don’t come snooping around, steal our info and then pimp us out to other oinking piggies.
We do it all.Parry and hit back. Ask her why it matters what you use if you can function with them as if you use google. Then return fire with your favorite reason not to use google. For me, I like to open the dev tools in Firefox, and show the head of any website. Let them choose. Find the line with google analytics, google tag service, or google ad sense. “Wow this website has nothing to do with google. Why is this here? To track you. Did you know that google can track your mouse? Even if you don’t click on anything? Or they can track you by installing fonts?” Etc. Etc. Scare the shit out of them and they’ll leave you alone. Hopefully you can slowly begin to convert them.
- Never defend. Always make a good attack.
- Never say privacy. Never get dragged tech yapping. Always say control, power, scam and abuse.
- Never lead with gains. Human care most about loss. Always focus on loss.
Something like:
Watching big tech gape my inbox was never normal but, if you’re into that, I’m not judging you.
… okay?
- Paranoid: 0% normal
- Blocking scams: 100% normal
I’ll expand this question to my entire social circle.
I haven’t found that anybody cares about my email provider. It doesn’t affect them because email is federated. Nobody has ever asked me why I’m mailing them from a domain I own rather than a service provider they’ve heard of.
Where I do run into a lot of resistance is trying to get people to use Signal. Some people seem to find the concept of having multiple messaging apps objectionable, which has never made any sense to me as long as they have basic computer skills. On occasion, I’m on the other side of that conversation when I’m unwilling to use Facebook Messenger for reasons that should be obvious to anyone in this community.
Don’t frame it as practical. It’s moral.
It was, and in a number of places still is, ‘normal’ to say she’s a woman and therefor has no business having a private email address at all, that all communication with her should be through her father or husband, and that if she were to talk to a man herself she’d have to be beaten to make her behave more ‘normally.’ Normal just means common, not good. If she wants to keep talking to people through Daddy Google, that’s her choice, very ‘normal,’ but you would rather be good.
- it you would have WhatsApp, we could keep in contact
- oh, come one, we have a Facebook Family group
- can’t you just share a Google calendar with me
- …
my mental health was questioned so there’s that.
my explaination about surveillance capitalism and what possibilities corporations have to spy on us fell on deaf ears and raised concern. i got called “paranoid” and also “stupid”
My answer is that I have a degree in CS and I work on the field. I know what I’m talking about. I literally work in the massive data processing field (not tracking, bank data but still).
“No, they are not listening to me through the microphone of my phone. They don’t need to, that’s the scary part.”
Well, my mother associates that with my anxiety and stuff.
Start using linux and install graphene on your phone ,all hell breaks lose
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Ty
Can’t graphene it, Xiaomi no longer sends unlock codes. 😢
Only Google Phones are compatible with gOS. I’d recommend getting a different phone the next time. Xiaomi is a shitty company doing their best at sourcing their resources for the hardware the worst way possible. And they are a privacy nightmare.
How is google any different?
its the only phone that “passes their security standards”
Sell your xiaomi ,buy a OEM unlocked pixel 8 pro, install graphene , its …great
*your
Ty
That’s literally everyone I know. They dont care about massive tech corps stealing everything. They have no clue they are feeding the machin e free data every time they use their shitty ai services. Drives me nuts.
