My ex used to claim they could do X or Y task and I would make arrangements under the assumption they knew what they were talking about.

We’d get to the point they would need to utilise said skill, and they’d turn to me and say actually I thought I could wing it but I can’t, you’re going to have to do this now.

If I’d been told at the start that they didn’t know, I would have spent more time investigating the situation and upskilled myself in preparation. Instead, I’d ask “Do we have everything we need? Does this look good?”, get told it’s fine - and it wasn’t.

The lady in the article may well have deferred to his expertise when asking if she was adequately prepared, and trusted his judgement over a quick Dr Google search.

There’s a lot of gay men who don’t even consider that these laws will apply to them. It doesn’t help that a lot of people will say “oh those laws only apply to locals, they won’t enforce them on international people”.